Every family has experienced this at one time or another – lots of passion and spice in your relationship until the children come along. Somewhere along the way those times you used to spend alone with just each other are replaced with trying to catch up on sleep because of a baby, children crawling into bed with you in the middle of the night, or jam-packed schedules.
We understand that some days by the time you put the children to bed, there’s barely enough energy left to talk about your day, let alone keep the chemistry alive between the two of you. It’s important that while you’re doing your best to raise your family, you don’t lose sight of what brought you together as a couple and that you make sure you spend time together, enjoying each other’s company, and reminding one another how much you mean to each other.
One way to ensure you keep the romance alive is to go on dates each month. If you’re family has a more hectic schedule, stick to once a month, or more often if you have the time. Make reservations at your favorite restaurant, or try the new place in town you’ve been meaning to try for some time now. Date nights (or days) don’t have just consist of meals. Change things up for each date, so that you are doing something new each time. You also don’t need to go out to enjoy a date. Have your little ones stay at a family or friend’s house for a few hours or overnight and enjoy some time at home together. Whether you stay in or go out, the key is to stay present and enjoy your time together as a couple.
- See a movie
- Enjoy a couple’s massage
- Go to a game or concert
- Take a class together
- Have a game night
- Enjoy an indoor picnic
- Cook a new meal together
- Work on a house project together
But keeping the romance goes beyond just having a date with your partner every few weeks. There are small things you can do each and every day to remind your partner how much you appreciate them and all they do.
- Send your significant other a love note, a sweet text message or just an email that says you can’t wait to see them.
- Compliment each other. Mix things up and don’t just stick to traditional compliments – make an effort to notice new things about your partner.
- Let the small chores go in favor of spending an extra few minutes together.
- Go to bed at the same time. This may sound silly and simple but you’d be surprised at how effective this is. It’s difficult to keep romance alive when one spouse comes to bed after the other is already asleep.
- Never miss a chance to hug or kiss your spouse “just because.”
- Don’t forget the little things. Thank each other for the work that each of you do. Appreciate each other’s contributions.
It’s important that you keep “investing” in your personal relationship with each other so that when you are alone again, you still enjoy each other as much as you did before the children came along.