When we become parents or if we’re planning to become parents, we develop our own concept of what the “right thing” is when it comes to parenting. We may opt to be the strict disciplinarian or maybe we’ll opt for being more relaxed and care free. Still others may opt for something more in the middle of both styles.
Two children raised by the same parents will likely give very different answers when they are asked how they feel about each parent’s style because each child perceives things differently. While one may believe that they are disciplined enough or appropriately, the other may feel that they are over-disciplined or even abused. When we become adults, many of the decisions we make when it comes to parenting are based on our own experiences and upbringing. We might choose to follow our parents’ style or go in the opposite direction.
Here are a few things to consider when you are trying to decide on the right style for you:
- Remember that your choices will affect your children’s outlook on life, their happiness and even their future relationships. We all want what’s best for our children but sometimes we don’t always make the best choices or decisions. Evaluate what you are doing and how you are communicating with your children; if you don’t like the results, it’s time to change.
- How much time have you spent reading information on different parenting styles? Obviously not every book is right and not every “expert” is really an expert. But that doesn’t mean that there isn’t something to be gained from learning something from others – especially when it comes to things like potty training, dealing with a picky eater or teaching a child not to bite. If there is legitimate advice at your fingertips, there’s no point in reinventing the wheel.
In the end, it all comes down to the way you feel as a parent. If you feel that your parenting style works, then you’ve picked the right style of parenting for you. It is difficult to find two parents that agree on everything and you will never find a child who agrees with his or her parents about the way they are disciplined. In a nutshell – when it comes to parenting, one size does not fit all.