Every family has experienced this at one time or another – lots of passion and spice in your relationship until the children come along. Somewhere along the way those times you used to spend alone with just each other are replaced with trying to catch up on sleep because of a baby, children crawling into bed with you in the middle of the night, overly busy schedules, etc.
It’s important that while you’re doing your best to raise your family you don’t lose sight of what brought you together as a couple. Here are some great ways to help keep the love alive even if you have small children in the home:
- Flirting isn’t just for dating. Send your significant other a love note, a sweet text message or just an email that says you can’t wait for the two of you to be alone.
- Compliment each other.
- Let the small chores go in favor of spending an extra few minutes together.
- Make a lunch date once a month and KEEP it!
- Can’t go out on a date? Make a date at home. After the kiddos go to bed, cook dinner together, light some candles and spend the evening catching up.
- Go to bed at the same time. This may sound silly and simple but you’d be surprised at how effective this is. It’s difficult to keep romance alive when one spouse comes to bed after the other is already asleep.
- Never miss a chance to hug or kiss your spouse “just because.”
- Don’t forget the little things. Thank each other for the work that each of you do. Appreciate each other’s contributions.
Keep in mind that your children will eventually grow and leave home to lead lives of their own. It’s important that you keep “investing” in your personal relationship with each other so that when you are alone again, you still enjoy each other as much as you did before the children came along.